The other day I heard a song, ‘7 Years’ by Lukas Graham. The first line of the song stuck with me and floated around my head for several days. It begins with, ‘Once I was 7 years old, my momma told me, go make yourself some friends so you won’t be lonely.’ Good advice for a 7 year old.
So why did this phrase stay with me? Perhaps it is because of a conversation I recently had with my 6 year old grandson. I picked him up from his 1st grade class and in the car he told me all about his BFF, Hunter, and then went into great detail explaining what a BFF was. I asked him about his friend Ollie, wasn’t he your BFF? He explained that Ollie was his friend since he was little but Hunter was his new BFF. As a Grammy, it warms my heart to know he is making friends and seems to be happy and well adjusted. There are so many kids who through shyness or just being different have difficulty making friends – my heart goes out to them.
Another reason why it resonated with me is I’m in a new phase in my life where I am making new friends. For many years, my late husband was my best friend. We had other couples that we socialized and traveled with; but he was the one I confided in and shared my day-to-day problems. When we moved here and after he passed, I had to figure out how to ‘go make yourself some friends so you won’t be lonely.’ Not easy when you are retired. I’ll admit it was hard and soon I became discouraged. I prayed and prayed and prayed; then God answered my prayers one Sunday. I decided to sit in a different spot, in the back row, and I plopped myself down next to a pleasant looking blond, Emily Rogers. After a few minutes, we learned that we were both new to 1stPres and that we were interested in joining. It didn’t take long before we were visiting like we’d known each other for a lifetime instead of just a few weeks. God had answered my prayers and he continues to answer them. My circle of friends has grown and I feel blessed to have such wonderful people in my life…yes, I still miss my BFF, always will…but I’m not as lonely as I was two years ago.
The Bible is full of references to friends. Jesus had many. Some would fall into the best friend category while others were fleeting moments when Jesus touched a life, changing it forever. He also had people who betrayed His friendship.
In John 15:12-15, Jesus said: 12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command. 15 I no longer call you servants because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.
In this verse we are reminded that as friends come and go from our lives, His love and friendship is always constant…it never fails us…you might even say He is our BFF.
So ‘go make yourself some friends’ and share with them about God’s love – I promise that you won’t be lonely.